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Heaven and hell aren’t places
\nThat we go occupy after death
\nIt is in every moment of our day
\nWe live them in every breath<\/p>\n
Hell has its gates open wide
\nFor those weary, lost travellers
\nIt soon becomes home for those
\nLiving out their anger, hate and fears<\/p>\n
Heaven isn’t too hard to achieve
\nBut its gates aren’t open either
\nThe gates are closed, locked
\nTo be opened by someone who bothers<\/p>\n
The lock is nothing but anger
\nThe fury which builds in a heart
\nThe emotion which keeps you in hell
\nThe emotion which tears you apart<\/p>\n
When things don’t go your way
\nWhen everything is just so wrong
\nLet your heart be free of anger
\nAnd you’ll be in heaven before long<\/p>\n
Everytime you’re angry, think again
\nAnd let forgiveness take its place
\nThink of joy, think of love
\nAnd let the feelings show on your face<\/p>\n
It isn’t so difficult
\nAnd smiles are never too far
\nWhen love is all that fills your heart
\nYou’ll find Heaven’s doors opened ajar<\/p>\n
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Anger is one of the most damaging of all emotions, capable of undoing years of hard work, and breaking precious hearts in a matter of moments. Capable of wreaking havoc with the body of the angry. But it still rules the minds of so many. Why?<\/p>\n
A closer analysis of anger subconsciously gives people\u00a0a sense of control and gets things done their way. Eventually, it becomes a way of life, and when their anger starts hurting loved ones, they find themselves unable to change.<\/p>\n
The Damage to Health<\/strong> Adrenaline increases the heartbeat and breathing rates, elevates blood pressure and raises metabolic rates. It prepares the body for a fight or flight response, shuts down the digestive system (which is why, anger during or immediately after meals is the most damaging) and prepares muscles for physical exertion.<\/p>\n Cortisone increases blood pressure, mobilizes fat and glucose, subdues allergic reactions, reduces inflammation and can decrease the number of some white blood cells that are involved in dealing with invading particles or bacteria. Consequently, increased cortisone levels over a prolonged period of time lowers the efficiency of the immune system and makes a person potentially more susceptible to infections and even to cancer.<\/p>\n What not to do<\/strong> Managing Anger<\/strong> Walk Away<\/strong> Write A Letter<\/strong> Analyse<\/strong> The Long Term Solutions<\/strong> Replay<\/strong> Deal with It<\/strong> Finally<\/strong> Heaven and hell aren’t places That we go occupy after death It is in every moment of our day We live them in every breath Hell has its gates open wide For those weary, lost travellers It soon becomes home for those Living out their anger, hate and fears Heaven isn’t too hard to achieve But its gates aren’t open either The gates are closed, locked To be opened by someone who bothers The lock is nothing but anger The…<\/p>\n
\nGetting angry is quite like drinking too much alcohol. You’re completely out of control and it feels good, because sometimes people get tired of controlling themselves. It also sends the adrenal glands into an overdrive, flooding the body with stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisone.<\/p>\n
\nWhile we know that outbursts of anger are damaging, suppressing anger is also equally damaging, and its effects show up in the long run. Anger should neither be released in an outburst, nor suppressed. It should be managed.<\/p>\n
\nGetting rid of anger is not an easy job, and not a quick one. It takes time, patience and determination. One needs to take it one step at a time, one outburst at a time. If you could get someone to record an outburst, you would realise how frivolous and ridiculous you are when you get angry. You say things that you don’t mean, and probably don’t remember after you have cooled down. But your loved ones do.<\/p>\n
\nWhen you get angry, just walk away. Take a walk, go for a run, or physically exert yourself until you are calm.<\/p>\n
\nWhen you’re angry, there are a million things you want to tell the person in front of you. Instead of screaming it in their face, write it all down in a letter, but do not give it to them until you are calm. Once calm, you’ll probably want to burn the letter.<\/p>\n
\nAsk yourself why you are angry. And whom you are angry with. Is it really worth fighting with someone you love? Or is it really worth risking your job?<\/p>\n
\nMeditate <\/strong>
\nMeditation helps you keep your mind in control. It also makes you more relaxed, and thereby less prone to getting angry.<\/p>\n
\nWhenever you have had an outburst or have controlled your anger, replay the events of the day in your mind. Analyse and ask yourself what you could\/ should have done, and how you behaved. Resolve to do better next time.<\/p>\n
\nIf you were angry for a valid reason, deal with the situation. Once you have calmed down, let the other person know the reason for your anger and how you would like things to be. Clarify, discuss, and reach a conclusion. Always let the other person know that you were angry and what made you angry.<\/p>\n
\nAn angry outburst is not justified irrespective of the reason for the anger. It might be something trivial and silly, or something grave and important, but an outburst is not the way to handle it. First calm down, and then deal with the situation with proper thinking and planning. This will get you the most effective results. The key phrase here is Respond, not React<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"