Wow Merel, thanks for sharing!

And it’s funny because her behaviour suggested that sub-consciously she knew exactly what she needed to do and when she was finished doing it. First, she ran away and wanted space. Then, she sat down in silence and cried every so often. When I thought she might be done crying, I asked her if she wanted to do something else now, and she said no. Then she cried some more. Apparently she wasn’t done. At some point after more quiet time, she started talking to me about what she was feeling. Out of her own initiative. I didn’t need to ask. After more quiet time, she stood up, looked at the tissue in her hand (I gave her one) and said: I think we need to find “Holle Bolle Gijs” (which was a garbage can that asks for paper via a speaker, we were in a kids park) and she wanted to search one. So we went on a quest for the garbage can together. We found it in the end, and all was well with the world. 🙂

Well, hello Ashwita 🙂 Thank you for your question.

Yes, sometimes it does become very hard to deal with one’s own internal noise in the face of chaos and there’s a big temptation to just do anything to make it stop. In this situation, I would suggest to deeply feel whatever emotion you are feeling in that moment, and release any desire to escape from it. Just stay with whatever pain it is that you are experiencing, until it fades away. The post on Deep Listening will help you understand this perspective better.